I am 29, why am I still not getting married?
Let's get real for a minute. At what age do you think you should be married? Whether it's at 18, 25 or 30, the truth is still the same: everyone has their own timeline in life. Some people want to get married early, while others want to enjoy themselves first and then settle down later. But the main question remains — why is marriage such a milestone in our lives? If you don't feel ready to make a lifelong commitment just yet, that’s okay. There is no right age to get married. And if it means not getting married until your 50's... then so be it!
1. There’s no right time to get married
Deciding to get married can be a big step. There’s no right answer when it comes to the perfect time to settle down. Is it that getting married young and early is better than getting married later in life? Truthfully, there’s no answer to that. We are the only ones who can tell us we know what’s best for us and our future.
2. You haven’t found the one
Marriage and partnership are not always meant to be. People take different roles and responsibilities in marriage than what they knew before. That’s why waiting is really crucial for you in order to find THE ONE that can compliment you. We’re sure you’ve heard this a million times, but marriage is about two people complementing each other and finding happiness in what life brings with them. If you haven’t found THE ONE yet and are still waiting for him or her to show up, it’s okay! Don’t rush into marriage before falling in love.
Just because it took longer than others, doesn't mean you failed. Remember that!
3. You haven’t found the real reason why you should get married
Marriage is not a must. People around us made us think that we should. When you’re ready to say “I do,” you will. You just have to find what your true why is for wanting to get married. Some people want their partner to be their best friend forever, but for others, this isn’t a priority because they can still be completely happy without each other in their lives. A relationship between two people is always different between one person and another couple so it is important that you know your own personal reasons for getting married. Maybe right now you haven’t figured out your why and that’s totally fine.
4. You still want to enjoy your life
You are not the only one who is not married. It does not mean you are bad, a failure, or a loser. You are perfectly fine with your life. You might have been unlucky in love (we feel your pain). The remedy is not to force yourself home and marriage but to realize that life has its own ways and it will give you what you need when you need the most of it. But look at your current life, without marriage, you still feel your best.
5. Different religions
This is a very controversial topic. With so many religious and racial backgrounds, it can be difficult to find the person that is right for you. You may love someone of a different faith, but to get married, you’d need to convert. However, being in love does not necessarily mean you need to get married. It’s important to find out what makes you happy and then go after it regardless of your circumstances. Being in love doesn’t mean you need to be married or have children. Love is not defined by the legal documents declaring it. It can exist outside our social constructs and structures without becoming lesser or inferior once legalized.
You're not behind in life. There's no timetable that we all must follow. 7 billion people can't do everything in the same order. What's early? What's late? Compared to who? Don't beat yourself up for where you are. It's YOUR schedule and everything is right on time.
If you are still on the fence about when’s the right time to settle down and have kids, why don't you start planning first?
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